1. What is bullyingBullying is many different things. Anyone can be bullied - it isn't limited by age, sex, sexuality, cultural or religious background. Bullying is a lot more common than people think and can happen in many different environments including school, at home, on the sporting field or at work.
People are often bullied because of a perceived difference. The difference can be related to culture, sex, sexuality, physical or mental ability or disability, religion, body size and physical appearance, age, cultural or economic background or being new to a school, work place, to a country, to a social group, or being new to a sports team.There are many ways that someone can be bullied:
Being bullied can lower your self-esteem and you may feel alone, sad, depressed, angry, scared or confused. If you are being bullied it is not your fault and there is nothing wrong with you.
2. Who Bullies
A bully can be an individual, or a group of people. It can either be someone your own age or older, including friends your boyfriend or girlfriend, brother or sister, or an extended family member. A bully can also be an older person, or someone in a position of power such as a teacher, parent or boss.3. Why do People Bully Others?
There are a lot of reasons why some people bully. Often a bully will have a low self-esteem or has been a victim of violence themselves and they are using bullying as a way of making themselves feel more powerful. If you are experiencing bullying it may help to remember that bullies are often not as tough as they make out.
They may see it as a way of being popular, or making themselves look tough and in charge. Some bullies do it to get attention or things, or to make other people afraid of them. Others might be jealous of the person they are bullying. They may be being bullied themselves.
Some bullies may not even understand how wrong their behaviour is and how it makes the person being bullied feel.
Why are some young people bullied?
Some young people are bullied for no particular reason, but sometimes it's because they are different in some way - perhaps it's the colour of their skin, the way they talk, their size or their name. Sometimes young people are bullied because they look like they won't stand up for themselves.Why is bullying harmful?
Some people think bullying is just part of growing up and a way for young people to learn to stick up for themselves. But bullying can make young people feel lonely, unhappy and frightened. It makes them feel unsafe and think there must be something wrong with them. They lose confidence and may not want to go to school any more. It may make them sick.4. How Bullying can Affect you?
Bullying can cause physical injury, stress, intimidation or make you feel as if you are all alone. It might leave you feeling scared and like your options are limited.
You can feel a range of different emotions, including:
Bullying is scary and embarrassing. It can make you feel as if it's your fault - it's not! Here are a few things to remember:
If you see someone else being bullied you should always try to stop it. If you do nothing, you're saying that bullying is okay with you. It's always best to treat others the way you would like to be treated. You should show the bully that you think what they're doing is stupid and mean. Help the person being bullied to tell an adult they can trust.7. Are you a bully?
Have you ever bullied someone else? Think about why you did it and how you were feeling at the time. If you are sometimes a bully, try to find other ways to make yourself feel good.
Most bullies aren't liked, even if it starts out that way. Remember, it's best to treat others the way you would like to be treated.8. Is Someone you Know Being Bullied?
Bullying may be difficult to see as it may happen when the person is alone. People experiencing bullying may be scared to tell anyone or feel ashamed about being bullied so they may try to hide what is going on. Some indications that someone is being bullied are:
Take care that you don't immediately assume that the problem is bullying. These signs may be visible for a whole range of reasons, not only because they are being bullied. Someone may show these signs because of the person they are, or they may be dealing with other issues in their life.9. What to do if you Think Someone is Being Bullied
Talk to Them - It is a good idea to talk to the person you think is being bullied to find out what is going on with them. Try to remember that the person you are talking with may be very sensitive about the situation and may be scared.
Let Them Know you Care - Help them feel good about themselves. If a person is being bullied their confidence may be low and they may feel lonely. It helps to let them know that you are a friend and care about them. It can often help to point out all the great things they have to offer to help them to feel good about themselves.
Include the Person into your Group - Making a special effort to include the person into your group may help increase the persons confidence.
Stick up for Them - If you see someone is being bullied it may be helpful to stick up for them. Take care to ensure that in trying to stick up for the person being bullied that you don't make the situation worse or put yourself in danger.
Speak to Someone - Letting someone else know about the situation may help you to solve the problem. A teacher, counsellor, or another adult could be helpful people to talk to. It may also be helpful to involve the person experiencing the bullying in this process. Together you can go and talk to someone about the situation.10. Technology Bullying
With today's ever changing technological advances, other forms of bullying and ways of bullying have advanced with them. There are now other mediums which bullies use to get at their victims.
Cyber bullying is a form of bullying, which is carried out through an internet service such as email, chat room, discussion group, online social networking, instant messaging or web pages. It can also include bullying through mobile phone technologies such as SMS.
Examples of cyber bullying behaviour are:
Cyber bullying can happen to anyone and the bully can act anonymously if they want. People can also be bullied online by groups of people such as class groups or collective members of an online community.
It's really important to learn how to protect yourself online and to learn how to respond if you or a friend is being cyber bullied. Read on for more info.How you might be feeling if you are being cyber bullied
Just like bullying in real life, there can be terrible effects on those who experience cyber bullying.
Being bullied can lower your self-esteem and you may feel alone, sad, angry and scared. If you are being bullied it is not your fault and there is nothing wrong with you. Don't be afraid to let someone know that you are being bullied as they may be able to help you.How to stop cyber bullies
If you are being cyber bullied it is possible that you're feeling powerless and isolated.
But, there are options and you can do things to stop the problem.
Mobile Phone and e-mail Bullying
The mobile phone seems to have become one of life's necessities for children - it is reported that nine out of ten children have one - usually as a tool for protection and safety.
Unfortunately many of these children run the risk of being 'phone bullied'.
Texts and voicemails are being widely used as a bullying method. There is now also a craze called 'happy slapping' where children are bullied, the images of which are filmed and sent to others via video phones.Mobile phone bullying can include:
If the calls are frequent it may be possible to charge the perpetrator under the Protection from Harassment Act 1997.
It may also be possible to charge the perpetrator of the anonymous or abusive calls with an offence under the Telecommunications Act 1984.Happy Slapping
A New form of bullying - Watch out for "happy slapping" the latest youth craze to sweep Britain. It's not a new dance step or even a new designer drug. It's a CRIMINAL ASSAULT. It generally involves groups of teenagers approaching an unsuspecting person and start to punch and kick him or her while capturing it all on their mobile camera phone. The images are later uploaded and shared on the internet.
If you are an accessory to this 'yob culture' the criminal justice system will not tolerate this behaviour and will prosecute. If you have information, are a victim, or know anyone related to these incidents please tell your teacher, parent or local police station.